Jesus did not hide his suffering. He did not keep a stiff upper lip or minimize the reality of what had happened. He showed his friends the scars from fresh wounds.
A plan for reconciliation is not ‘forgive and forget’ but ‘forgive and remember’. We need to understand that peace is costly and comes through great suffering. Death and pain are not supposed to be permanent. God makes a way with Jesus for resurrection and restoration to occur.
You may have fresh wounds from your losses. It may not be possible to bring back what used to be. But God will move towards us to achieve reconciliation because He wants it. When appearing to the disciples, most of them were there and were reunited. Thomas was not there, but his time was coming to be restored.
Judas was not there and may never have responded to God’s willing forgiveness.
The loss of Judas is a scar that Jesus wears. It does not change the eternal love of God toward unrepentant sinners. ‘Father forgive them. They don’t know what they’re doing.’
Peter was in that room feeling ashamed for having denied the Lord. Many of the disciples would feel responsible for what had happened to Jesus. Could they not have protected him? Did they not see it coming? What could they have done differently? And yet… Jesus comes to them and his love has not changed. Jesus showed them the scars but not to humiliate them. This was to help them remember that love pays an impossible price and suffering moves to the past.