If the truth about heterosexuals is told, not everyone fully embraces the tenderhearted monogamy model.
Herein lies the common ground challenge to being sexually faithful. Adultery is essentially a problem of broken and distracted spirits. Go back to the Oneness of God. He speaks to Israel and calls their worship of other gods, adultery. Idolatry is adultery.
If someone cheats on you physically, emotionally or with pornography the relationship is polluted. It cannot remain sacred and trustworthy. The relationship is no longer special.
Everyone faces the demanding perfection of God’s Law and squirms. The Law reminds everyone that we are all infidels. Infidelity comes quite easily and any hope of change is found in Jesus. If we are to be new creations in God’s eyes, it will not come through our ability to stay pure. It will come because Jesus connects us to the Oneness of God and grants a new kind of identity.
Paul wrote to the Galatian church about this dilemma.
What if we were to see that our new identity is not male or female, single or married, gay or straight? What if the new creation reality frees us from the distinctions that we are judged by? What if we really are one in Christ Jesus? If so, we belong to God’s Kingdom.
Not everyone can accept this. Sometimes our sexual identity and behaviour is greater than our identity in Christ. Am I being judgmental and unfair to the world? No, I am pointing to an alternative identity offered to everyone.
There is a new identity that frees us from distinctions that we are judged by.