The first step in accepting is to eliminate the options. Jesus is evaluating in prayer if there is another way for God’s will to be done. If there is, he asks that it be considered. The key words are ‘if it is possible’.
Before full acceptance can be reached, there is a submission to the Father’s will. Surrender of this sort requires a trust that God knows what is necessary and why it must be done.
What is the Father’s will or desire? Did the Father want to hurt and punish the Son for something He did not do? If that’s all we think this is, we are presented with a lousy picture of love.
The Father is faced with an unthinkable choice, but it will lead to something better. The crushed grape produces wine. The crushed olive produces oil. The crushed Son of God produces the salvation of humanity and the Cosmos. If we do not consider this, we are left with an angry Father God who lacks empathy and is very destructive.
Still, Jesus must drink from the cup of God’s wrath. If there is another option, he wants it. This is not about what Jesus wants, though. It is about recognizing the Father’s plan and agreeing to it. Not as I will, but as you will.