Six years ago my wife and I were at ‘Real Canadian Super Store’ picking up a few groceries. There was a huge Valentine display near the dairy section. Alongside the heart-shaped boxes of chocolate there were big, romantic teddy bears. A woman picked one up and looked at it with interest. Her eyes lit up as she thought about giving it to her sweetheart. From twenty feet away her adult sister was heard to say, “The fuzz will probably fall off of it.”
Have you met the ‘Valentine-crusher’ in the grocery store? Have you run into the eye roller at the family gathering or the finger waver in traffic? These people do not have a peaceful mind, at least in that moment. There are some people who seem to only focus on the potential for failure and destruction. They are contrarian and only focus on how bad things are or how bad they will become.
If your name is Debbie Downer, people may not take you seriously. To do so would invite more defeat and misery when the need is for hope and affirmation. It’s good to be realistic about problems and be open to correction, but sometimes the people who try to fix you don’t have the whole picture to base their conclusions on.
Joyce Meyer said, ‘If you struggle with negative thinking, it's important for you to come to grips with the fact that your life won't change until your thinking does.’