WHEN GOD WANTS A DIVORCE

If you have experienced a family member, spouse or partner that ignores and humiliates you for a prolonged period of time, you may reach the point of saying that you will not stay with the one who continually hurts you.


Do you think that people with low self-esteem or those with higher self-esteem are more likely to disconnect from those who mistreat them?

Dr. Sally Singer Horwatt said,

People low in self-esteem are more likely to ostracize, but they appear to use it as a manipulative tactic rather than true disengagement. 
High self-esteem individuals are more likely to ostracize to terminate an unwanted relationship. Ironically, people with high self-esteem are more likely than those with low self-esteem to terminate a relationship with partners who ostracize them. [1]


Why do we think that God has no right to distance from those who reject Him? In describing His People as a bride, the God who hates divorce uses language to say that He will divorce them if they continue to deny Him.

God does not abandon his care for the loved ones. He acts on their behalf to remove enemies from their path. He carries through on all that He has promised, but cannot go with them in their present state of disconnect. In loving response, God distances himself from those who stir up his anger.

The strong, shocking words of God through the prophets and through Jesus are meant to stop us in our tracks. Have we taken God’s goodness for granted? Do we think that we can get by with a stiff neck and never do anything about it?

As we move forward through Exodus 33, we will find out that God will not go with us until we change our heart toward Him.

As a child fighting in the back seat, my loving parents would sometimes reach the point of stopping the car and saying, “Do you kids want to walk?” The thought that we would be alone, lost and abandoned was enough to get our attention and we learned to get along.

We should not be surprised that God sometimes stops the car and asks if we want to walk alone from this point or remain with Him. Our greatest fulfillment comes in knowing that we belong to God and are learning to live openly and before Him.


Exodus 33:
When the people heard these distressing words, they began to mourn and no one put on any ornaments. For the Lord had said to Moses, “Tell the Israelites, ‘You are a stiff-necked people. If I were to go with you even for a moment, I might destroy you. Now take off your ornaments and I will decide what to do with you.’”So the Israelites stripped off their ornaments at Mount Horeb.


In all the ways that we put on bling to impress ourselves, God says stop! We need to see the way we are and stop ignoring the kindness of His Love.  Let us return to a posture of humility and honesty.

The truth is that you matter to God. You are invited to belong and nothing can separate you from the love of Jesus. But, do not let your heart grow cold toward God. You may continue in living a blessed life, but God won’t go with you anywhere that you have chosen to shun him. Take off your ornate mask and all the costumes you wear to look good. In the vulnerable place we find mercy and direction for life.



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