Showing posts from July, 2016


If you have ever been terminated from a difficult work relationship, you may be imprinted with a measure of rejection. You have been told that you are not good enough to meet their expectations. You are subtly or overtly told that you do not belong to their vision of how things are supposed to be. You may not be trusted to succeed in their context.

Listen to these words from Psychologist and Stanford professor Gregory Walton.
Belonging is primal, fundamental to our sense of happiness and well-being.Belonging is a psychological lever that has broad consequences, writes Walton. Our interests, motivation, health and happiness are inextricably tied to the feeling that we belong to a greater community that may share common interests and aspirations.Isolation, loneliness and low social status can harm a person's subjective sense of well-being, as well as his or her intellectual achievement, immune function and health. Research shows that even a single instance of exclusion can undermine w…


When it comes to how the world views the end of life, I would like to highlight four main views. Most people  will hold one of these views or variations on it. Excuse my broad strokes and obvious bias for the fourth view if you believe otherwise.

The first we might call the materialist view. They would hold that all of life exists in the tangible, physical reality. Life is defined by all that is experienced in the heartbeat and the brain wave. When these things cease, the body dies and the person ceases to exist. When your body goes in the ground, that’s it. In that view we have memories of our loved one that can be passed on to the living, but our memories end when we do.
The second group of belief originates from Hinduism and Buddhism. It views the end of life as a time of reincarnation (or rebirth). The transmigration of souls teaches that your life force is reanimated in another form. Depending on your karma (how you are judged) you will come back to life in a higher or lower form o…