Matthew 6:
 16-18"When you practice some appetite-denying discipline to better concentrate on God, don't make a production out of it. It might turn you into a small-time celebrity but it won't make you a saint. If you 'go into training' inwardly, act normal outwardly. Shampoo and comb your hair, brush your teeth, wash your face. God doesn't require attention-getting devices. He won't overlook what you are doing; he'll reward you well.

Be yourself when you pray.  Stop looking at your religious life as a way to be dramatic.  There are times when our needs and emotions will cause us to reach out to others for help.  And that is okay.

But let’s trust God enough to do an inside job on us.  We won’t impress God if we punish and neglect ourselves to prove some point.

If you are hurting and damaged, don’t you think that God knows already?  Taking care of our appearance and public behaviour is a good discipline while going through something.  It keeps us focused on our private world with God, instead of our public world with rescuers and persecutors.

There are appropriate ways to reveal our struggles to one another.  We are taught to bear one another’s burdens.  We are taught to ask for prayer and be emotionally responsive to the feelings of others.  But Jesus does not teach us to protest our struggle by advertising it everywhere we go.

Let’s learn to care for ourselves outwardly even when we struggle inwardly.  That is not phoniness.  It is simply trusting that God can be trusted with the inside stuff.  Your private pain is not for public scrutiny.  Your private world belongs to God a few trusted confidantes.