Showing posts from January, 2017


Dag Hammarskjold said, “Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.”[1]

Could it be that loneliness becomes God’s workshop in our life? In the apparent emptiness we look for deeper substance and meaning.
When we recognize the supreme value of having a relationship with God, we are better able to thrive through changing relationships and environments.Part of loneliness is rooted in discontent.When we are not happy with what we have, our negative emotions are amplified.

Hebrews 13:5Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."

Sometimes loneliness comes from the amount of change that we experience.Everyone and everything around is in transition and we find ourselves longing for the familiar.
A lonely heart is an open door for God’s Spirit. You are invited to leave the orphanage and move into God’s house. If you are willin…


Truth can be painful because it proclaims life’s situations as they are, and not as we hoped they would have been.An important step out of loneliness is to be honest with God and with others.If you are not being honest with yourself, there’s no way for you to be honest with God.
Sometimes we want to minimize our problems or live in denial.We may be too proud to admit that we have a problem.
There are many people who hide behind service to others.They will do things for all kinds of people, but leave their own needs unmet.Perhaps you find it harder to pray for yourself.This is a false belief that it is wrong to ask God or anyone else to take care of you.This lack of self-love will lead to isolation and self-loathing.
God will never belittle you for being honest with Him about your deep inner feelings.He really does love and care for you.

1 Peter 5:7“Cast all your anxiety upon Him, because He cares for you.”

God’s ability to work in our lives is dependent upon our openness to Him and allowin…


Time for that fearless, emotional inventory… If you are blue, take your cue!
While life circumstances can contribute to one’s feelings of disconnect, circumstance alone cannot be always blamed. Sometimes we have no easy explanation for our emptiness and start to feel guilty for not having a good reason to feel this way.
Charlotte Brontë who wrote Jane Eyre said, “The trouble is not that I am single and likely to stay single, but that I am lonely and likely to stay lonely.”
Here is a list of common feelings and actions that lonely people get caught up in.
Useless, feeling you have nothing to offerCynically lashing out against people who appear successfulWithdrawal into yourself to avoid conflict with othersExaggerated self-pityFear of trying new social adventures
Listen to the ancient blues writer who stopped going to church.

Psalms 42: 3 My tears have been my food day and night, while men say to me all day long,"Where is your God?"  4 These things I remem…


We expect that Christmas and New Year celebrations will be times of gathering with our closest family and friends. It’s also a time of increased drinking and drugging; some to add to the celebration and some to numb the aching effects of loneliness.
At Nilde’s funeral on December 30th, I had a conversation with one of the funeral directors and commented on how it seems to me that there are more deaths at this time of year, especially around the holidays. His eyes widened and he replied,“Absolutely! This is the busiest time of year for us. In the summer, we have times when there might only be one funeral in a week. This time of year we have back to back funerals.”
How ironic and subtle that our celebrations remind many of their acute loneliness.
In ‘The Great Gatsby’ author F. Scott Fitzgerald captured the emptiness of materialism in the Roaring Twenties. The narrator Nick Carraway said, “The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and a…


Revelation 21:
Then I saw “a new heaven and a new earth,” for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea. 2 I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. 3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. 4 ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”5 He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Then he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.”6 He said to me: “It is done. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End. To the thirsty I will give water without cost from the spring of the water of life. 7 Those who are victorious will inherit al…