James 1:
19 My Dear Brothers And Sisters, Pay Attention To What I Say. Everyone Should Be Quick To Listen. But They Should Be Slow To Speak. They Should Be Slow To Get Angry…

Do you often find yourself frustrated when you listen to others? Are you agitated and waiting to say your next point since it is obviously more important?

If that happens, we need to ask, “What’s going on inside me? Why am I being impatient right now? What’s the distortion inside me that makes we want to explode right now?”

James 4:
Why do you fight and argue among yourselves? Isn’t it because of your sinful desires? They fight within you. You want something, but you don’t have it. So you kill. You want what others have, but you can’t get what you want. So you argue and fight. You don’t have what you want, because you don’t ask God. 

If you are hot-tempered, you can learn to slow your anger down. It will have much more to do with your triggers and self-interest than the behaviour of another.

James says that we need to be asking God about what is going on inside us. You will always have anger, but you do not always do the work to diffuse it. Quick-tempered people are quickly alienated from those they love. Anger is contagious and always creates a mental distortion.

If you are always responding to everyone in anger, get some help. Ask God to show you where the hurt is and find a trustworthy person to confess to. Be prepared to uncover the lies that you presently believe. As long as you hold onto a lie, you will not hold on to what is true.

Until you move on to what it is actually true, you will not be free.